Have you considered marriage counseling? The counseling community is kind of like the medical community but also quite different.
Doctors go to medical school. Therapists go to therapy school. Doctors pick a specialty. Therapists typically do not. Doctors must have specialized training before they cut you open, right? It's their legal duty....Therapists can cut you open emotionally with no real experience.
Well in the counseling community there are two extremes. Relationship coaches are not required to have any training, education, or license...so anyone can call themselves a coach.
Then there are professional counselors like us who have degrees, supervision, continuing education, licenses, and we're governed by the state.
But what the state says is "if you don't FEEL like you can help them, then you should refer them out"...but counselors are wonderful people who want to help. They also need clients so they see everything.
The average counselor is unfocused. They see kids, teenager, families, 10 different individual issues and then they stick two people in a room and call it "couples counseling". They apply the same methods to couples as they do with every other issue.
That's why we focus on just helping couples. Therapists are jack of all trades. They're not able to get the training necessary to really help couples succeed long term.